alone again, naturally… (ways to cope up with the v-day blues)

Its February again. And we all know what makes this month special, its the only month that has the least number of days. What? Its not what makes February special, really?

Ah yes, Valentines day is upon us. And that single day in the middle of the month changes how we live our daily lives. Flowers’ prices will quadruple. Red will be the dominant color thru out the month. Motels will be fully booked. And a collective quiet sigh will be heard from all the single guys and girls.

Valentines day do excite those who are currently in a relationship. But what it does mostly is to let those who are single know and feel that they are not in a relationship. Kinda sucks, right? It doesn’t have to be. Let me, a guy who has spent 25 years without a Valentine’s date, share to you some tips on how to “survive” the dreaded V-day. (Disclaimer: These tips are pretty much general. If you have other ways to cope up with Valentines day, please do share those with us.)

1. Stop sulking… So you’re alone on this day. boohoo… Tell that to the other people single. Before you ask what’s wrong with you, remember what Eva Mendez (#1 girl in ask men’s top 100) told her friend in the movie Hitch: You’re not sick, you’re single. It’s ok to be single, especially on this day. Think of all the savings. hehe… 

2. Stop watching chick flicks or romantic movies… Speaking of Hitch, I just had violated this rule or tip. Last Saturday, I had a movie marathon which included Hitch and the American Preisident. And last Wednesday, I saw Underworld 3, which is basically a “Romeo and Juliet” between a vampire and a werewolf. Nothing wrong with chick flicks. But it just makes having a relationship (or maintaining it) look easy when it ain’t. If only Hitch was real. 

3. Date your family/friends and yourself… One time, I gave flowers to all the female in my barkada. And it felt good. Maybe this time, i’m going to give flowers to my mom, sister and grandmother (sa 15 na lang pra mura) And of course, you can treat yourself from time to time. I bet the girls have mastered this defense mechanism. Just a reminder, just because you’re single doesn’t mean you have to celebrate Valentine alone.

4. Date God… You might have asked God why you’re single this time of the year. Or why you are still single upto now. Maybe you’re blaming Him for what happened to a previous relationship. You can spend your time doing these, or you can spend time with Him to know what He thinks and what He wants. God is not a killjoy. He wants what is best for us. But we often think we’re better than Him. Being single is a gift from God, not a curse. Just remember these two things: 1 John 4:1, which says “We, for our part, love because God first loved us.” The second, the age old saying: God Loves You! How’s Him for a Valentine’s date.

There you have it folks. My tips on how to survive V-day. I don’t know about the other three, but the last one is fool-proof. But if you’re not content with these tips, here’s another one. Just think that by next Valentine’s day, those who are in a current relationship (excluding married couples of course) will be the one needing these tips. And you’ll be the one celebrating V-day with a special someone. hahaha… 

l8r dayz…